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Becoming Victoria Beckham during birth.

I am a c-section mama; and bloody proud of it! I still cannot believe that in today’s society with all that is going on in the world, people (and it saddens me to say, women) are still bashing each other depending on how their baby came into the world. Who gives an actual f**k?! If mum and baby are both healthy and happy, then it’s none of your business how their baby actually came into this world!

Ahhh…. Ok ranty part over (I think)!

Having said that, although my birth circumstances weren’t the norm (I had pre-eclampsia and Ruben was whipped out all of a sudden at 38 weeks), I still suffered from the “too posh to push” comments from members of my immediate family. I was able to bat the comments away with minimal trauma and resentment, however I know that this is not the case for everyone.

I guess what people want to know about c-section births is how did it feel, what was the recovery like, and would I choose to have another c-section?

As I mentioned earlier, I wasn’t actually planning on having a c-section but as I noticed reduced movements and over a period of 2 weeks, I’d also noticed I was developing multiple symptoms of pre-eclampsia, finally I was diagnosed and 30 minutes later I was being prepped for surgery. I might also add that I had to do this all on my own as my husband wasn’t allowed into the hospital (as per Islamic law in women’s hospitals in Qatar, plus it was in the peak of COVID) and sat patiently in the carpark. Luckily, as we had completed a Hypnobirthing course, I was fully prepared and felt empowered about what was going to happen. I was informed, educated and knew that I was strong enough to do this.

So, I was in my not-so-sexy backless gown, my circulation socks and was being wheeled down to theatre. You can normally walk down, but I was in excruciating pain and dosed up on Morphine so couldn’t manage it myself. Speaking to many of you, the spinal is what causes people the most anxiety about how it will feel, but in all honesty I can’t actually remember feeling anything other than uncomfortable whilst hunching forwards over my bump that was still so high up at this point. I then lay down and could feel the anaesthetic starting to take over, and this is when I lost my head for a minute. I always get teary with anaesthetic, and this was no different. I remember telling the anaesthetist that I was scared, and he said, “It’s ok, try to relax, they’ve already made the incision and you’ll meet your baby in a minute”. I couldn’t believe it! I felt some pressure in my tummy and the only way I can explain it is like having someone rummage around in your handbag looking for a lip balm, except the handbag is your stomach. No pain at all, just odd sensations of pressure. Then Ruben was lifted over the screen and I was a Mummy. It took another 30 minutes after that to stitch me up before I was wheeled into the recovery room with Ruben.

Now, the recovery. This is possibly the part most women think about, particularly if they have other children at home that need lifting, cuddling etc. In the UK it’s common practice to be out of bed and walking as soon as you can feel your legs again (usually after 6-12hours) as it is said to promote better and faster recovery. I’d agree with this for sure. Don’t get me wrong, the first night in hospital after the anaesthetic had worn off was tough as your abs just don’t work the same and lifting a tiny baby from a crib is no mean feat, but with some extra pain killers, rest and nutritious food, it wasn’t actually as bad as I was expecting. I actually found coughing and sneezing more painful that walking and picking up Ruben in the days that followed. But after 4 days of rest, Carl and I took Ruben for his first walk in the park. Yes, it was at a snail’s pace, but we did it and continued to do it. I genuinely believe my recovery would have taken longer without this gentle, daily movement.

When it comes to my scar, I love a good old pick at scabs and wounds in general, so I actually found it fascinating having to clean and look after the biggest scar I’d ever had (which in reality looks tiny now). But the one thing I’m so grateful I stumbled across was an Instagram account called @csectioncorrection * which taught me the importance of scar massage and desensitisation as part of my recovery. Check out their page, it’s phenomenal! It did take 2 years for my scar to become thin and white, but I know that working on massaging my scar daily encouraged lots of oxygen to help it heal; it was worth the wait. As part of my c-section and general recovery, I also signed up with @BodyFitMums * and completed their post-natal online course which really focused on healing your deep abdominal muscles after carrying your baby. Amy is so knowledgeable, and I genuinely owe gaining back my post-baby fitness to her and her 6 week post-natal programme. (*These are not Ads or sponsors, I genuinely think these accounts are incredible!)

Now, I guess what you are all wondering is would I opt for a c-section the next time I have a baby. If it was based on my previous experience and a c-section was the best option for me and my baby at that time, then yes, I absolutely would. I came away feeling like Wonder woman. I felt fierce, strong and like I’d conquered the world. I didn’t care that I hadn’t had the vaginal birth I was planning for. All I felt was deep gratitude for being able to access the incredible medicine and doctors that were able to effectively save mine and my babies life. All births are births, however they happen. I would of course love to experience labour and a vaginal birth if me and my baby are both safe and well, but that’s just a personal desire rather than a preference.

If any of you reading this are considering a c-section birth, or are just reading this to help prepare for it as a back-up plan, I’m always happy to answer any questions about what I experienced. Please feel free to DM me on Instagram @HypnobirthingwithAimee or email me at I am also running a FREE c-section prep webinar on Sunday 17th December 2023 for anyone who wants to know more about what to expect. Sign up using the following link. Remember, if a c-section birth is good enough for Victoria Beckham, Beyonce and Serena Williams, then you're damn right a c-section birth is good enough for you and me!

You’ve got this mama!

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