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Google maps and your birth plan are the same!

Allow me to set the scene.

We all know the feeling of waking up early, loading the car with the bags, snacks, supplies and the kids before setting off on the long drive ahead. Then having to get the kids out of the car again for a toilet stop even though you asked seventeen times if anyone needs to go 🤨


You strap in, start the engine, and turn to your partner and say, “So which way do we go?”. It just wouldn’t happen! You wouldn’t go on a road trip across the country without first planning the route or putting your trust in Google Maps.


For any keeno drivers out there, you might not only have checked the route on Google Maps but also have checked the traffic on the morning of your drive, along with the options to use a toll road too.


So you set off, having a plan of the direction you are going only to be informed that there is a build-up of traffic due to road works on part of your journey. No stress…Google Maps easily and efficiently redirects you onto a different route to ensure you don’t waste too much time or fuel at a standstill.


After a few hours, some coffee and the odd service station later, you arrive at your destination, even if it did mean taking a few diversions or unexpected turns. You arrive safe and happy having avoided all driving related stress and arguments thanks to Google Maps and planning your journey ahead of time.

Person sat with crossed legs with a note pad and pen looking at baby scan photos.
Writing your birth plan is such a beneficial process for all involved.

Now, if you didn’t use a map or Sat Nav, I’m sure you would have ended up at your destination at some point, but it might be a much longer and have been a much more stressful journey (even if it was the ‘scenic route’).


Google maps and your birth plan are exactly the same! Stay with me while I explain…


Writing a birth plan or deciding on your birth preferences is just the same as planning out your route before you take a long drive to a new destination. It allows you to plan ahead and to look at all of your options in terms of where you would like to give birth, what positions you’d like to be in, what pain relief you’d like to be offered and when, what your plan B and C looks like, and the list continues.


Going through the process of writing your birth plan with your birth partner is as important, if not more so, than the document itself. It encourages you and your birth partner to have conversations about what you would like, what you wouldn’t like to happen, and it also encourages you to do your own research about certain elements of your birth to help educate and inform you before the big day. Going through this process will help you feel confident in your choices, and also empowered through the knowledge that you will gain as a result. Your birth partner will fully understand your wishes and feel confident in advocating for you on the big day too.


I know that some people believe that writing a birth plan is setting yourself up to ‘fail’ if it doesn’t go as planned. However, I’m here to remind you that it is impossible to ‘fail’ at birth. You will birth your baby regardless of how it happens, so why not prepare for the unexpected and be ready to make your informed decision regarding this process instead of burying your head in the sand and having birth happen TO you. It is a process that you are very much a part of and having thought about your preferences before it happens empowers you to make the right decision for you and your baby on the day.


Taking a few diversions or responding to bumps in the road doesn’t mean that you ‘failed’ at birth. It means that you welcomed learning about all possible outcomes and were able to prepare for these emotionally and practically before they happen. Going through this process allows you to open your mind to the possibility that birth doesn’t have to happen in a specific way for it to be a hugely positive and empowering experience. You are able to control the decisions you make that surround your birth, no matter how it happens.

pregnant women writing a plan or list
Start thinking about your birth plan early. You will probably write a few different drafts.

Your body, your baby and your birth. It’s always your choice how it happens.

Writing a birth plan


The thought of writing a birth plan can be daunting for some, and knowing where to start can be the main block. Just remember that there is no right or wrong way to do this and using a scrap of paper to mind map your thoughts could be a good way to start.


It doesn’t need to be on a fancy template and often the clearer and more concise it is, the better. Here are a few dos and don’ts to get your started in writing your birth plan (which might actually have many draft versions before you finalise it).


A few dos and don’ts of writing a birth plan


·      DO keep it short a sweet – bullet points and headings are a great place to start. This keeps it easy and quick to read for your care team who might already be swamped under other paperwork. Try to keep it to two sides of A4 at best. Ideally typed rather than handwritten too.

·      DO include relevant health information such as allergies, fear of needles, history of miscarriage, previous birth experience, etc.

·      DO mention the level of intervention you are happy with from your care team. EG are you happy with them suggesting pain relief, are you happy to have vaginal examinations.

·      DO include your ideal birth preferences but also your plan B, and C.EG, how would you like to proceed if an instrumental delivery is suggested, or how would you like the environment to be if you require an unplanned caesarean (more on this in another blog).

·      DO include what you’d like to happen once baby arrives. EG would you like immediate skin-to-skin and your Golden hour? Do you wish for baby to remain on your chest and not be taken away to be cleaned and weighed straight away?

·      DON’T (where possible) make it too strict. Allow for diversions, bumps in the road and a little flexibility. This will give you the best chance of coming away feeling like you birth was empowering and positive and that you were able to control what happened to some extent.

·      DON’T try to address EVERY possible scenario. This is too much detail and often your care team won’t have the time to read through a 10-page document. This is where your birth partner steps in and can elaborate on what has been written and advocate on your behalf.

·      DON’T focus solely on one type of birth. This is where your flexibility comes in. Consider different types of birth and how you might like these to happen.

·      DON’T forget what happens after birth. Consider what you’d like regarding the Vitamin K injection, feeding baby, bathing baby, delayed cord clamping, etc.


If you’d like some more guidance on what to include in your birth plan, some actual examples and to be given a FREE template, join me on Sunday 17th March at 4pm (UK) for my FREE birth plan masterclass.


We’ll go through all the above and much more. Plus, you’ll have the opportunity to have your FAQs answered live on the call.


You can click HERE to register your interest and all the details will be sent directly to your inbox.


Remember that you’ve got this, and however birth happens it is an incredible and magical experience that you are in control of and are able to make decisions on.


Lots of love ♡

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Aimee Broome
Aimee Broome
19. März

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