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Happy FUNKING New Year! Pregnancy overwhelm and managing the mum load.

The Christmas period followed by New Year can bring about many different emotions which can be exacerbated when you are pregnant, or are a new mum. To be honest, my son is 3 years old and I’m certainly feeling the pressure of this time of year even without my hormones changing on a daily basis.

Aimee, husband Carl and son Ruben cutting into his 3rd birthday cake.
My son turning 3 last week and still experiencing the overwhelm and mum load.

The invisible pressures from society when seemingly everyone around you is setting goals, is on a new health kick, they are super motivated with to-do lists as long as your inner thigh can be really overwhelming. But maybe you’re in a different place where this pressure might be one too many plates to spin. You want to be super motivated, you want to be setting goals, you want to be the super fun wife/pal/daughter/etc but you’re in survival or freeze mode where getting up and out of the house feels like a huge achievement some days.

I’m here to tell you that I see you, I absolutely feel you, and IT IS OK.

person holding a warm cup of tea
You can't pour from an empty cup

January blues are a real thing for a reason. So many of us are feeling this way. What is important is that we try to take tiny steps in order to help us move away from this feeling (as I’m sure you don’t want to be feeling this way forever).


Taking care of your mental health is so important; that goes for if you are pregnant or a new mum. The adage of ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ fits perfectly here because often as mums/mum-to-be we are the glue that holds our family together. We manage our family, our social calendar, appointments, our meals, the school run, the clubs, the play dates and the list is endless (even if we share those with our partners, the mental load can remain heavy).


Here are 5 simple things you can build into your daily routine to help you move away from this feeling, without adding to already long to-do list;

1. Talk to someone.

Whether this is a friend, a relative, your Midwive or doctor, or by joining some communities on Facebook. This helps you feel heard and understood taking away some of the burden of how you feel.

2. Breathe.

Spending just 5 minutes a day (maybe whilst on the toilet or somewhere else that is quiet) to take some long deep breaths. Try to aim for a count of 6-8 on each inhale and exhale. This helps to calm the mind, lower heart rate & blood pressure and help you zoom out and have a clearer head ready for the day.

3. Move your body.

Pregnant, or with a push chair, getting some fresh air can help blow away the cobwebs. Wrap up warm, treat yourself to a warm drink and get those steps in. Even just 10 minutes of natural day light is said to boost your vitamin D levels and your mood too.

4. Eat well.

Easier said than done sometimes I know, but trying to prep meals ahead or cook in bulk might help. Focus on a diet balanced in carbohydrates, protein and fruits/vegetables to ensure you’re getting the right vitamins and to help provide your body with energy of growing a baby or raising a young family.

5. Join a pregnancy, birth or mum and baby class.

Surrounding yourself with other people who are in the same season of life as you is not only good for the soul, but it makes you realise that you are not alone. It creates bonds with other likeminded people. You could even end up making some friends for life by attending these classes. Check out your local Facebook groups as there are often free meet ups in most towns too.

Above all, remember that you do not need to be ‘productive’ all of the time in the practical sense. Sometimes putting your own needs first to help fill up your cup will mean you are being ‘productive’ and you can be a better version of yourself to help grow your baby or support your new family.

Be kind to yourself, the new year funk is a thing, but IT WILL PASS, just as everything else does too.

Lots of love ♡

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